Yes, you are causing more trouble than it’s worth. This isn’t about you. Nor should it be. Your daughter and her fiance want you to be at their wedding, and it happens to be at your ex-wife’s home. Smile and accept the invitation. Show up and have a good time. Bring a date or if you’ve re-married, your new wife. Make the occasion a festive one. If you don’t have something nice to say, say nothing. Find a way to disengage from your ex-wife so that you can enjoy your daughter’s good fortune, and yours as well. Divorce with children requires new levels of disengagement at each family event, like this second wedding. You are up to the task.
You don’t have to like your ex-wife, but you do have to be civil and if you can muster up some manners, be polite. Do it for your children, and do it for yourself, as a way to move on with your own life and set an example for your daughter and her new extended family. Your ex-wife may have been a witch beyond belief in your now dissolved marriage, and in the divorce proceedings, and even to this day. But, let the bad behavior be hers. [i]You[/i] take the high road and buy a new suit, get a great haircut, and show everyone your best and most gracious side on the day of the event. Dance with your daughter, enjoy your chicken dinner and smile for the family photos.
And when you leave the wedding, toast yourself for having been a great father, a great ex-husband, and a great human being.
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