You’re going to have to deal with the fact that you’re in a rush — and he isn’t. Although it’s been a year since you met him, you were at college for 9 of those almost 12 months. You’ve only had one date. I think you should start “your clock” running now — not from the time you met him a year ago. Use the first three months — from May to July — to decide if the two of you want to continue dating. If you both do, then use the next three months from July to September or October, to decide if you want to be monogamous. I know this feels super slow, but it’s a smart way to not rush into things and avoid getting hurt because of the rush. I don’t think you’re wasting your time but I do think you should be a little more realistic about his clock and it’s differences from yours.
I hope that helps. 😉
