I’m sorry you’re upset. The answer to this issue lies in your own behavior — not his. 😉 You’ve wanted to get married for a long time, but stayed with a man, who for eight years, knowing marriage is important to you, doesn’t share your desire to marry and isn’t moving to get married. Now that you have a child together, nothing’s changed on the marriage front. You feel the same way as you did before. He feels the same way as before. His behavior matches his feelings. But, yours doesn’t. You’ve wanted one thing, and done another — consistently. Your choice remains the same. You stay or you go. It’s easy for me to tell you that this is pretty simple: You decide and then you act on your decision, but I know you don’t want to leave your boyfriend more than you want to be married — otherwise, you would have done it during these eight years. My advice is that either you stay and make the best of things or go and focus on being a single parent and then dating. You have to understand that in doing so, your boyfriend may find someone else to date and even marry, and your child will have a step-mother or a step-mother figure, joint custody, etc. I can’t tell you what to do, but I can try to help you work through this. Let me know if you have any other questions.
