Thanks for your reply but I think you may have misunderstood what I said. For the our first 7 years he told me he did want to get married then after our son was born he told me the truth. My condition for having children with anyone was marriage which he knew, so it was almost like he used the baby to trap me as he knew that I wanted to be sure I was going to be with the person that I had children with for the rest of my life, and now it seems to me that he has used the child to keep me around until he finds the greener grass, almost like a get out of jail free card, because as far as he’s concerned now that the child is around he believes I won’t leave him.
Believe me if he had ever once told me he didn’t want to get married in the 7 years before our child I would not have stayed with him and waste time investing in a relationship that had no future. The only reason I agreed to have a child before marriage was because after all, being a woman I have an expiration date on the baby making and I’m almost 30 as it is.
