First of all, take a breath — you don’t know that he’s cheating. Second of all, reevaluate your relationship goals. This will help you decide what to do next. You’re out of college, and for some people at this stage of life, they’re looking to get married, but for others, they’re looking to start their careers and marriage is nowhere on the radar. Decide what you want. If you want to keep dating without an endgame in site, but want monogamy, understand that you’ve got competition, and up your game. 😉 If you want marriage on the nearby horizon, then decide if he wants the same. You may have had different goals when you met on Tinder in college, than you do now. Don’t ask him, and don’t give ultimatums, or initiate a conversation or a talk — but do observe. He may be feeling pressure you don’t realize — after all, you discovered all this on your way to a wedding, and he may subconsciously have been looking for an out to his own commitment. And, the 12:30 a.m. call may have been a fluke, and while flirty, nothing to worry about in the long run — or it may have been him having second thoughts about your relationship, in the middle of the night, and acting out.
I hope this gives you a direction to start considering your own thoughts and behaviors — and if you have any other questions, please ask.
April Masini
