Please pretend that you are not the person who submitted your question and reread your post. Seriously, please do this. Now, what would you advise a person in your situation?
I’m going to answer your question with the following questions:
Why on earth would you want to get involved in this? You say that you have no trouble dating, thus I cannot imagine why you would want to pursue a relationship with a woman who is illegally in this country, with a deported, alcoholic felon for a husband or (at a minimum) live-in boyfriend — that is the father of her young son.
This woman’s situation and problems are very serious. I cannot discern if you are intrigued by the challenge of the situation, or what the story is. However, there is no getting around the fact that this is very serious stuff.
If you pursue a relationship with this woman, you are electing to get involved with an illegal mess (in every way imaginable) — to say nothing of the ex. Who, trust me, is not going to appreciate you stepping in during his absence.
I think you are inviting trouble, in many forms, if you pursue a relationship with this woman and I would strongly advise against doing so.
