[AskApril Masini]

The question here isn’t does he like you, the question is do you like him? Remember, you’re the prize in the relationship, and he needs to chase you and win you. Men feel best about themselves when they’ve won something, and when it comes to dating, that something is you. If you make it too easy for him, then he’ll never be able to chase and win you.

If you’re not really sure if you want to invest any more time with this guy, I’d advise that you continue to play the field and date other people at the same time as this guy. There’s no reason to be monogamous with him just yet. You don’t know each other well enough to cut off your other options. Remember, this other rule I have: dating is a numbers game. You have to get out there and get up to bat in order to hit a home run, and the more times you’re up at bat, the more likely the chances you’ll hit a home run. Apply that sports analogy to dating and you’ll understand how important it is for you to date a lot of people to find one who’s really right for you.

If you’re dating lots of other guys who do know about paying for the first date, holding hands, and other social manners, and you still pine for this guy you’ve written me about, then you’d know that he’s a guy you’re interested in and one you’re willing to cut a break on his eccentricities. But if you grow tired of his failure to phone you, and only chatting on the internet with you two or three times a week, then your answer will be clear. He wasn’t the one.