AskApril Masini1. Break up with this guy.
2. Go to the doctor or a health clinic and have a physician put you on birth control that works so you don’t get pregnant until you are married.
3. Enlist in the United States Army, Marine Corps or some other branch of service. I’m serious. You could really learn a lot about discipline and character. You’d be given a place to live and responsibility to build your self esteem. You seem to have no problem taking orders. You’d be serving your country and making something of your life. You’ll come out of your service with a career.
So that’s my advice. As for what’s happened in the past, well, I’m very sorry your parents let your boyfriend move in with you when you were 16 and he was 21 and that you got pregnant while he was living with you and your family. He could have been arrested and prosecuted for statutory rape, and your parents could have lost legal custody of you for their judgment. It was a real mistake on your parents’ part. But not your fault.
It’s not surprising that you moved directly from your parents house to living with your boyfriend where you obeyed him and looked up to him rather than taking responsibility for reading the lease or saying no to paying for things you shouldn’t have been paying for or not getting an abortion if you didn’t want one instead of allowing your boyfriend “to make you” get one. You replicated your parent/child relationship from your family of origin with your boyfriend. Clearly, you were not mature enough to be moving in with your boyfriend, and he wasn’t and still isn’t ready to take care of a woman. His desire to have a baby with you now is one of the worst ideas ever.
Don’t date anyone right now. Get your own life together and make something of yourself you can be proud of. When you do that, I bet you’ll be a magnet for some prince in shining armor on a white horse. I mean it.
