smartsexy007I have spent the past week or so digesting your advice and would like to follow up and shed some light on a few things you mentioned. Dating other single parents with kids is a nightmare! I’m going to be blunt about that because dating is challenging enough! Another issue is the pattern of men I get involved with. Most need “rescuing” and I am trying to break out of that pattern and find an “alpha” male who has his life together and is strong-er than me. I would love nothing more than a “take control kinda guy” so I can be the less dominant person in the relationship…I HATE making decisions and being “in charge” all the time but I’m forced to do it because if I don’t know one else will.
In regard to my boyfriend…(who is only legally separated and as you said “advertising himself as single”) you are definately correct about that but one of the things that attracted me to him is that he isn’t what I usually date…older than me and 100% Italian. Not to stereotype but most Italian men I know are very strong and some controlling. So in a way I think I was subconsciously looking for that alpha male. Plus one of the things he said to me after a few months of dating him was that he wanted to take care of me and my daughter. April…no guy has EVER said that to me.
The other night I had a chat with my boyfriend and realized that the bottom line is their is NO POSSIBLE way I can stay with this man if selling his home is contingent upon his divorce. So I asked him point blank…is your divorce contingent upon you selling your home or paying your x-wife off?.. and he said NO! He mentioned the legal term you told me about and said he has a one year waiting period before filing for divorce and he is executing it on the anniversary date which is March 8th. Moreover… I have met his mom and all his brothers and sister (who was recently up from Florida). He and I also attended a cousins wedding last month and his very close friends (mostly married friends who are still friends with his x-wife ) tell me he is so happy that he met me and how crazy he is about me. The x-wife has a boyfriend for a while…but your right…I still have the issue of her coming and going in the house until he is divorced or he pays her off. And the girls…well that’s an easy one as far as I’m concerned…since I have lots of experience in this area…if he doesn’t fight for me it will be over. Being a restaurant owner he knows alot of people and everyone who has heard we are dating tells me…he’s such a great guy…
My last questions are…
Is it so wrong to continue dating to see where this could possibly go?
Is it wrong to accept an invitation out with another guy (letting them know I am dating) if an opportunity presents itself?
Its all about the chase April…right?
