Ngimwa
Since I broke my spine I lost feeling from my waist down so getting an erection is sometimes not possible and if I do it doesn’t last really long so I am being taught to use a penis pump to help with the erectile dysfunction. On the kids front I can’t ejaculate during sex so to get kids I’ll have to go through a doctor. And the article said that the chances I might get a kid is 35 to 10 percent.
I don’t know what’s the problem so I’ll just write how the conversation went:
After telling her all this she started crying and told me we couldn’t have spontaneous sex like a normal couple (and for me I don’t see what’s so bad, I just need like 5 min and I’d be okay) and she felt like she had to sacrifice a lot and she didn’t think she had to give up kids (I really don’t know what she had to give up for me.. I really don’t and if I did I’d try find a way to get it back for her and the kids thing it’s not impossible it’s just more complicated)… Then she said she felt selfish cause she was thinking about herself.. I said it’s fine.. Then she told me not to be angry but she wanted a break cause she hadn’t thought about all this before we started then she repeated the kids thing.. Then she said it wasn’t fair to me and she hopes she knew this before I loved her then she apologised for being selfish then she just stopped crying and said it’s okay and she said she’s always telling me to be optimistic so now it’s her turn..
I hate what’s happened. I don’t want her to be unhappy and I know she loves me and I don’t want her to feel trapped cause she feels she can’t go if she wanted.
I asked her for a break and she assuredly me she was happy and told me it would kill her if I broke up with her
I feel bad of course cause of everything but I’d feel worse if she wasn’t happy.
Am I wrong in asking for a break, am I transferring my feelings onto her
I just need advice figuring it all out
