I’m not sure how long the two of you have been dating, but dating is a process that allows two people to get to know each other, and it sounds like you got to know something new about her that recreates the picture you have of her. You’re now adjusting to this new piece of information that doesn’t jive with the person you thought she was. Give yourself time to figure out who she is, and what this means. Also think about when this happened — if it was recently, meaning it’s more a part of who she is now than it might be if it happened ten or more years ago at a time when she was experimenting or making mistakes that she’s learned from or corrected. Also consider that she is telling you this because she wants you to know everything about her. It must have taken some courage for her to tell you, and it gives you an opportunity to decide how important it is to you and that she’s more layered and complex than you thought. 😉
Hope that helps.
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