First of all, I’m very glad to help you, but for future, please post any relationship issues in the Q&A Forum where you’ll get more attention from other readers and more attention from me, too! 😀
But since you’re here, and so am I, here’s my answer to your question:
Your ex-boyfriend is being very, very clear with you, but you’re not hearing him [i]or[/i] paying attention to his behavior. You want him back, and you’re letting your feelings trick your brain into thinking that there’s a way he doesn’t mean what he says! 😕
When your ex-boyfriend showed up at your house with a bottle of wine one week after your break up, he was making a full on [b]booty call[/b]! He orchestrated a night of ex-sex, and that was that. Since the sex was good, he wants more — sex! Not a relationship — just the sex. 😮 He couldn’t be more clear when he says he doesn’t want to tie you down; he doesn’t want a relationship now; he may not be ready to marry for at least a few years.
I don’t think you can win him back. He’s made that clear. But…if you want to win [i]yourself[/i] back, then consider the ex-sex for what it was — a one night stand with your ex. [b]Now[/b], it’s time to move on and not waste any more of your life with someone who isn’t going to be [i]your[/i] Mr. Right.
Break ups are difficult, and he’s making it tougher by dangling sex in front of you, knowing you want all of him, but hoping you’re weak enough to settle for a small part of him (no pun intended! 😉 ). But y[i]ou have the strength[/i] to know you deserve more than that! Sex isn’t that hard to get — but a relationship with someone who wants intimacy, companionship, true love and a future together, as well as sex — is more of a challenge. It’s also [b]a lot[/b] more rewarding. So consider yourself the prize that you are, and find someone who wants that prize enough to make you his and make himself yours. Don’t be the booby prize by throwing yourself at any guy who isn’t offering you his whole self, in return.
Find Mr. Right — your ex is not that guy.
AskApril Masini