Got it. So this is only a two month old relationship that is showing signs of distance. I know it seems like the STD is the reason for the distance, but it could really be something (or anything) else. When a relationship is that new, you’re still in the getting to know you stage, even though you’re having sex. However, if it was your news about the STD that spooked him, then he’s probably wondering what else you may have been exposed to, and how that will affect him.
My advice for future, is that since you do have this sexual history, now, you should be more vigilant about your health and the way it may affect others — as well taking precautions to protect yourself, given what you’ve been through. I don’t think you should have unprotected sex without having a talk about your past and what you’ve been exposed to — without your knowing it — but nonetheless, exposed. This also protects you, as well as any partner. Plus, it will show that you’re thoughtful, responsible and including the other person in the decision to have unprotected sex given this past. And… it opens up the conversation to the other person’s history.
Difficult conversations can actually create intimacy and bring couples closer together.
