[AskApril Masini]

Either this guy is a workaholic, and he’s giving you a very clear picture of what life with him will be like in the future, or he’s not as interested in you as he once was, which is why he didn’t try to see you on his one week off of work. I can tell that you’re disappointed that he doesn’t want to spend more time with you, but trying to get someone to be something they’re not will only lead to more disappointment. It’s much better for you to accept him as he truly is and decide if he’s right for you. Some women get along really well with workaholic men. But this may not be you.

It’s also probably disappointing because you’ve invested a year with this man, and things aren’t going the way you thought they would. Remember that if this isn’t Mr. Right, then a year is a short time compared to a decade of being with the wrong guy. Time is relative.

Most importantly is that you be honest with yourself. Is this someone you want to pursue a future with? If you’re not sure, then have a talk with him, and find out what’s going on. If he tells you, then you’ll have a better idea of his life and you’ll either feel closer to him for having talked, or more disappointed because he’s just not that into you. If he doesn’t tell you what’s going on, or denies something’s going on, then you’ve got the same options. You can believe that he’s disappointing as a partner or that he’s just not that into you and is being deceptive about something he doesn’t want you to know about.