AskApril MasiniUnderstand that the violence is what lost you the relationship, and unless you find a way to stop acting out by yelling and hitting, you will continue to lose relationships. Any healthy woman will not want to be with you as long as you lose your temper and strike them.
The good news is that you’re aware of this problem and you’re not denying it. I’m glad you recognize this as a serious problem. That’s the first step to curing it.
Make sure you have outlets for your energy. Lots of men get out their aggressions by playing sports, running track, or doing something active with their bodies that makes them sweat, exhausted, and uses up that energy in a positive way. Everybody’s body has a different chemistry, and alleviating your feelings, like anger and rage, by using a punching bag, playing racquetball or one on one pick up basketball are all great ways to take care of yourself — and your relationships. If you find that this is helping, make sure you workout like this regularly. It will keep your relationship with a woman healthier, if when you feel angry you go for a run or hit the gym or go for a big swim rather than taking it out on her.
Understand that life will continue to throw you curve balls — of that you can be sure. There will be many situations where you will not get what you want — whether it’s having a girlfriend do or say what you wanted her to, or a boss at work do or say what you wanted him to, etc. Maturity and wisdom will be yours when you accept the way the world works, and learn to roll with it instead of warring on it.
Be sad that you lost this girl because of your temper, and vow to change yourself, so it never happens like this again.
I think you can do it.
