AskApril MasiniYou’ve asked for my opinion, so I’m going to be very frank.
First, you should thank your lucky stars that you’re just dating this woman and not married to her!
You can sit there and analyze things to death and try to determine why she is the way she is, why she said this or that — or why she [i][b]really[u]she’s clearly is not who you thought she was[u]your relationship with her was not what you thought it was
Believe it or not, she’s done you a huge favor by letting you see The Real Her. She’s giving you the opportunity to move on and to find someone better for you.
Based upon what you’ve told me, I would recommend that you bite the bullet and cut your losses now… As painful as it is. You need to accept who this woman is and move on.
The truth of the matter is that if someone is going to cheat you simply cannot build a wall tall enough to keep them in. One way or another they are going to find a way to do it.
My experience has been that a cheat is a cheat and a liar is a liar. Someone who has cheated with you is very likely to cheat on you. Equally, where there is one lie (or affair), they are likely several other lies (or affairs).
As hard as it is to hear, the only real solution to this type of situation is to ask yourself if you can trust this person or not. If the answer is no, then you’ve got to ask yourself this next question: [i][b]why would you want to be with someone you can’t trust?
I am a firm believer that you cannot expect someone — anyone — to show any more respect for you than you show for yourself. If you don’t trust this woman because of her lies, her affairs and her dishonest behavior, then you need to demonstrate that the behavior is unacceptable to you and that you deserve better in the only way that really matters… by giving yourself the opportunity to meet and date someone you can trust.
This woman does not share your values —- you need to find someone who does.
I’m sorry.
