With all due respect, the answer to your question (from my perspective) is YES, he is using you.
Sometimes as women (from my own experience) we put up with alot that is not part of the deal. We pay the price to have him in our lives. Believe whatever they say to us and cling to whatever little household chores they perform, all in the name of having a man.
From my experiences, there is also someone for you who will adore you and meet you halfway on the responsibilities. Dont let anyone take you for granted. Why shouldnt he ask permission to do certain things? You’re not even his wife… And as far as the controlling you by his anger, pls learn to not let it affect you. I’ve been through that as well. I’ve had some hard knocks and wish someone would have told me what I’m saying to you now. I wish you much success in making your decisions or changing some aspects of your relationship.
