AskApril MasiniNot all men have foot fetishes, and most don’t. That said, there isn’t anything wrong with it if you both have some common ground. When you think about all the body parts that do go in one’s mouth during sex, feet really aren’t all that strange. They’re just not the norm.
That said, you can quit now, or you can tell him you’re not interested in that at all, but you are interested in other more normal things. But those are the extremes. In the middle, and in the spirit of compromise, you can tell him that you’d be willing to try it, but not at first. If and when you do start a sexual relationship with this guy, there will be so much else that is new about each other, that you may not want to introduce feet right away. Maybe the second, third or fourth time. Perhaps, after you get to know each other a little better first. The other compromise is to try it and see how you feel about it. You may like it. Sometimes in bed men and women do things for each other because it makes the other person feel good, and is a gift in a way. Not everything is supposed to feel good in the same way to both people at exactly the same time.
As for wanting to see him as a strong man, that’s a normal concern. But before you jump to the conclusion that he wants to be your sex slave, remember that an act like a man performing oral sex on a woman can be perceived by some men as an act of submission, but to others, an act of being in control of the woman and being dominant. It all depends on your point of view.
Take it slow. Keep communicating with each other. Be compassionate, but also be true to your own feelings.
