Calling her every now and then is a fine idea. Don’t make the weekly calls too methodical, though. Give the dance of love a little syncopation. Call her one week, then wait ten or twelve days or even two or three weeks for the next call. Let her miss you a little, then call her and give her something to be grateful for in your call. If you want to build up to a date, and she’s reluctant because she’s taking care of business, make yourself attractive to her as well as satiating your desire to know she’s still there.
Also, be flexible. If you call her one week, and she’s just miserable, in tears, and completely absorbed in her own divorce situation, you may want to give her some more time than a week to take care of her business. Listen to her, and you’ll know what to do and when.
In the meantime, keep your own options open in terms of other women. She may be more interested in you if she knows that you’re a catch and you have a life. Seeing other women — as friends, casual dates, or more — will also let you know yourself better and give you more self esteem. That self esteem will keep you from panicking about whether she’ll be there or not when you call.
