[Freddy]

Thanks again April. You’re right…big deal if I get rejected. What is at risk anyway? My ego? She seemed to be up front with me about everything…maybe she was not lying, maybe I saw it as a negative when I should have seen it as a positive? It’s like she just gave me a road map. I know exactly what her issues are and what she is currently doing to correct them. None of which seemed to have anything to do with me. She never let me down or go…she explained herself and her situation to me willingly.

In a previous thread you had said – “If she’s dwelling on a break up that happened over a year or so ago, she may have some more complex issues to work through before she’s any fun.”

It seems obvious [I feel it in my gut] that she is not ready for anything at this moment. That may be why she pulled away. If she is interested, we both know where things are going to go if we keep seeing each other; so maybe she realized that she could not give that to me right now and she had to put on the breaks.

I believe that based upon what she said she won’t be ready for anything until she moves in with her mother [gets out of the house from that divorce] and gets another job. She even mentioned the possibility of just quitting the current job.

How do I give her the space she needs and keep myself around for that second date? She may not be ready for up to a few months and I don’t want to give up. When she is ready SOMEONE will be there pursuing her…why not me?

What do you think about calling her once a week or two to say hello and see what she’s up to? Based upon her attitude during these calls and what is going on in her life at the time I would know when to ask for that second date.

Does that sound like a good plan?