You continue to hope for an alternative reality because you don’t like the way your girlfriend has changed in this one. I’m sorry to say, but this is the only reality there is.
Lots of people get into big trouble because they commit to relationships based on a person’s potential. The relationship works or fails based not on the potential but on what the person actually does and how they conduct themselves. You’re still looking for something you had with her in the past, but no longer have now. The reality now is things are different.
You may have had some super great times together, but you had a lot of problems, too. And now you’re unhappy because she’s changed, and you both acknowledge the change, but you’re fighting it and wanting it to be her fault, and for her to change back to the way she was.
You can’t make her change. That’s her job. All you can do is express yourself to her, which it sounds like you’ve done, and wait for her response – which you clearly don’t like. You say she’s not acting like herself, but the reality is, the way she acts IS the way she is. She may be acting differently, but it’s still her. That’s the reality.
