[AskApril Masini]

I’m going to answer your question using your own words… Please reread what she said to you:

[u][b]She cannot move past the initial stage of attraction towards me.[/b][/u] She said this was a timing issue and that [u][b]she was not emotionally available right now[/b].[/u] She said that [u][b]she still thought about her ex like 5 times a day[/b] [/u](“What is he up to…who is he with…blah blah”) She said [u][b]it took her 3 years to get over her boyfriend before that one[/b][/u], and for her finally to begin dating a guy again. [u][b]She said she would be a bad girlfriend right now[/b][/u]. I responded, “I think you would be a great girlfriend.” I wrote her a letter expressing my feelings towards her, and we have talked about it 2 or 3 times, [u][b]but she has held strong in her position.[/b][/u]

This young woman is clearly not over her ex. Equally, she is not interested in nor anywhere near emotionally available to have a relationship with you. She has told you this directly and you are not listening because you do not want to hear her.

Please do yourself a favor and understand that when someone tells you these things you need to accept them — for your own good.

Move on and start dating other women… immediately.

When (and if) this woman becomes ready and interested in more than a friendship with you (assuming she ever does) she’ll let you know. Until then, you are wasting your time — to say nothing of setting yourself up for heartbreak.