[April Masini, your AskApril]

If someone has chest pains you don’t try and diagnose their potential heart attack — you call 911. If a diabetic starts to shake and go into insulin shock, you don’t plump their pillows — you call an ambulance. So if this guy says he is going to commit suicide and talks about dying, you have an obligation to call a suicide hotline and ask them to help him. Please take his mental illness seriously.

Once you do that, you’ll realize he’s not in a position to be in a relationship with you and you’re in love with someone who has serious interpersonal problems as well as a child on the way. He can’t be with you even if he wanted to because he’s not capable of it, and whether or not he’s ready to be a father, the baby is coming and he is no longer center stage. His child is.

Step away from this man because his problems aren’t yours. He has so much on his plate he’d never be able to be a boyfriend to you.

Get out there and find a man who is AVAILABLE, mature and consistent in his behavior, and mostly — healthy! I hope that helps.

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