[joe2424]

Thinking right… thanks for the reply, and I’m sorry for what happened to you! I may have left a couple of things out after I reread my post. The bar that she hangs out in most is a place where both of us are on a first name basis with the owner, and we know a lot of the staff. Plus, there are usually several mutual friends there on any given weekend. I guess what I’m saying is, she would have to be real sneaky if something along the infidelity lines were being crossed, because I would hear about it eventually, even though the place is packed.

I don’t buy the whole email thing either. There is a whole other reason she is doing it, but I can’t figure it out. She absolutely hates confrontation, so her excuse seemed believable at one time, but now she’s got me wondering.

Believe me, I’ve tried yelling, being nice, compromising, understanding, you name the approach, I’ve tried it. Her friends hang out at the bar on weekends, and she sits at home all week by herself, and on the weekend wants to be with her friends since I’m usually working. This is her reasoning, and justification. This is true, because two of her bridesmaids, she had trouble remembering their last names. Bar friends. I have requested, and even tried to help her find a hobby to relieve some of the boredom. No go. She gets out of work at three. Comes home and takes a two hour nap. Gets something to eat. Tries to stay up until I get home, but I tell her to get some sleep. She was on a schedule that would vary her hours a little so she could sleep in, but 7-3 monday through friday with weekends off so she could go out was the plan. So I have taken the approach that if she does me over then it happens I guess. There isn’t a whole lot I can do about it now except sit back and watch.