cathyluvsflaI appreciate your advice. Thanks. We all make mistakes and admitting them is the first step to changing, being stupid in the past with our choices is a humbling experience and to admit them to people who judge is exactly what I realized I would receive upon posting my comment. How I view life is “it is too late to change only when we are in the ground dead and buried”. I did not mention I was “looking” for a relationship, I just made a comment. It is a shame when people do us wrong and it hardens out hearts and “changes” us from being warm and accepting because then we cannot receive love back. To EXPECT something in return when we give love can give dissapointments to our own selves. My heart has been trounced on plenty of times, but I have realized that if i harden my heart to every man and judge HIM on past relationships with different men then I will be the loser. You sound like you have been hurt terribly. Since being single for years now, instead of praying for “a man”, I prayed for help for my heart – to be softened so that when the right man comes along, I will be the kind of wife I should be. I have religious beliefs so this is what I am referring to in being a wife. Being a single mom of 3, self employed, working 5-7 days a week does not allow to “look” for a man even if I wanted to. Where do we look? Bars, grocery stores, book stores…gee i don’t know you tell me. BTW….with time and patience I believe with patience, love, loving him unconditionally I will have the opportunity to be a wife later this year (I have given my word to marry him upon his asking me)…ya see I am getting married. After 7 long years of being single, now I am ready….yes, I will be 47 this year, but really who cares, I get to experience for the rest of my life what i am now ready for. To love is an act. A conscious act that is a daily effort, asking for patience and guidance from our maker. How do you think people who have been married 30, 40 even 50 plus years do it? If you know someone who has been married that long ask them. I really don’t plan my life on “articles” in magazines etc.
Sincerely,
Cathy
