malia2003I guess I am looking for a sweet blonde petite girl who is very caring and very laid back and good at discussing my problems with. I have experienced living with snappy girls who I tend to argue with and I don’t want to have that kind of situation. She would need to be slightly younger than me 22 say, def no kids for sure and come from a decent background, like me. My father was a lawyer, and my parents have looked after me really well and I have been brought up really well. I am more of a get a go guy always playing soccer (football we call it in UK!) and has strong view about certain things but very respectful and honest person who would be very loyal in a relationship, I see guys who are not as attractive as me with beautiful girlfriends and treat them like rubbish, cheating all the time, it makes me sick. Its funny I recently made a good friend at University and although he is a great guy to tell the truth he is a very unatractive guy.Anyway he invites me out for dinner with his girlfriend so it is the 3 of us. His girlfiend is probably all that I could ever want. Sweet, petite, caring, good looking and yet he kinda treats her like c*ap wen hes out with us(not sure what its like behind closed doors!) and im thinking if only this type of girl was mine, and I can kinda tell she fancies me wen we’r out, he is a mate so I would never do anything with her but its a good example of why I am so confused with everything. I cant believe how lucky this guy is!! I get on really well with the girl too which is so annoying, its like why do I NEVER find this type of girl!!!
Although I might be viewed as a male slag, I know that if I was in any relationship it would be only with a girl I really like and therefore I could never bring myself to cheat on someone I really like. Infact I am living with 4 or 5 difrerent girls in my house at university and one tells me I look like Daniel Craig the bond star, and that I could be on a bond movie, flattering but very frustrating for me as although I am getting these wonderful compliments,I know deep down that in 8 years I have never had a special girl in my life (luckily the girls dont know this at all). You are right I have to stay focused on the goal, but in terms of finding a girlfriend I feel as if it will never happen and my confidence is very low in this respect and its like I dont know where to search or being because I am so used to being the one night stand man. On the other hand seducing women in bars and clubs, or anywhere I find very easy and my confidence is high in this respect.
I am very insecure about the question being posed about how many women I have slept with. To tell you the truth I dont know how many but I know it is high. I kind of want to tell a white lie because I know that if I get into a relationship I will be loyal and honest but I dont want to start off with a lie! If I say I dont know havent counted, that sounds like I have lost count which is terrible! If I say a number like 10 thats a lie but at least they have an answer and its not going to make them look down on me. What would your advice be to me on this? I do enjoy going to bars still, would you say completely stop this? Perhaps I can go to bars with a different attitude? What else shall I concentrate on? You are right that all it takes is one girl who I click with but it seems unrealistic to me at the moment to be honest. Any other advice would be great. Also do you think books like the game and art of seduction are desgined for getting women into bed or designed at helping you to relate with more attractive women better, after reading half of the game it seems its designed for quick sex(which I feel I dont need advice on!) and not longer term relationships. What do you think?
thanks for your advice once again.
