[malia2003]

Hi sorry for taking such a long time to reply this is the first time I have logged in since I last replied. I would say firstly that the girls I have one night escapades with I do not ask out on another date again. This is simply because I view it that if she has given into me on the first date then she is too easy and could be capable of doing this with someone else if we started dating. I know this is hypocritical but its just a gut feeling that I don’t want to be spending quality time with a girl who slept with me on the first encounter. I would love to find a girl who is a good parent to me and can help me with situations other than getting me aroused in the bedroom! The problem is I don’t know where to look. The obvious place is bars and clubs but the problem is most people in these places are after quick thrills and fun and its not a good place to go hunting for a girl with dencent values and often girls are very defensive in bars and put on fake acts to lok good in front of their mates and hence you never get to meet the real person in bars if you follow me. Where should I start looking as im really not too sure? should i completely give up going to bars even though I enjoy it?

There are three girls I recently viewed as girlfriend material. 1st I tried an approach in the supermarket. The girl was absoultely gorgeous so I thought you know what im good looking enough and have a good personality so im going to get chatting to her. I did and we got on well and she told me to add her on facebook. I waited 4 days then added her played it a bit cool, and I got a response almost immediately and then i replied and got nothing back. This is the thing it kinda fizzled out quickly and i dont know whether to be one of those desperate guys( which I have never been before) and message again, or just to leave it as dont want to come across as desperate. Any suggestions on how I should pursue this?

Girl 2 is a girl I met through the social groups via the football and netball teams and University (English Universities) and she is gorgeous, very petite and get on well. However I have seen her kissing this one guy when we are out (no more) and seen her together with him a lot, and although she says she has my approval from other people she always seems to be with him. She is a bit known in the sports and social network (which everyone knows about) and to be honest I am thinking I would rather date a girl outside these types of networks as people know everyones history and it is a bit Cliquey but she is hot and I get on well with her. The fact she is kissing another guy is very offputting and I think this girl may not be for me. Any ideas? Would she be kissing this other guy to make me jealous?? I dont know. ALso I kissed one of her friendss at the start of term and she is constantly using this against me sayingyou cant kiss me if you kissed my friend, im thinkin but its ok for you to go around kissing other guys in front of me!

Girl 3: A girl who is in 2 of my groups at uni. Blonde attactive sporty, perhaps a little to sporty as she is a sprinter and has very toned body! She is in 2 groups so have become good friends with her and she is moaning why she never gets taken on a date so it seems like a perfect opportunity. I get on with her like a house on fire in terms of we take the piss out of each other and joke about each other in a funny way but if I ask her out and she rejects me then I have to live with that for next 2 years and our friendship could be very awkward from then on. again a very difficult situation.

Im not sure if any of these girls are viable options but at least I am starting to look. I am still enjoying myself at parties but honestly dont know where this girlfriend will come from. I am fearing the worst that I have something wrong with me (in my approach) and that I will never find a girlfriend!! All advice would be greatly appreciated. thanks x