[Frnkls]

So, I’m at the point of breaking up with a girl (or maybe past that point) and I don’t know if I am making the right decision. We had been dating for around 4 months, and as far as I could tell everything was going fine. She had told me that she really liked me and had tried to introduce me to all of her friends. We saw each other at least once a week and would be in touch every few days. Then she went on holiday. The last time I saw her, a week before she left, things seemed fine between us. I texted her a couple of times after that and she seemed a little distant, took quite a long time to respond and was a little bit short, but didn’t think that much of it at the time. Then she went on holiday, she told me she was going for 3 and a half weeks. I expected to hear from her at least after a week while she was there, didn’t here anything for around 2 weeks. So I sent her a text asking how it was going, no response at all for another 2 and a half weeks. In her response it was like nothing had happened, just said holiday was great, how am I, etc. I was pretty angry and sent a response saying I got the impression she didn’t want to see me again, I don’t want to be in a relationship with her because it’s too casual. That was a week ago and received no response. I love her, but I think she can’t be that bothered about me if she did that. I don’t want to be with her if that is the case but I don’t know exactly how she feels. Don’t know whether to contact her again or just move on!

[AskApril Masini]

You overreacted. 😕 And you broke up with her. Her silence over the week since you did so, is her moving on. 😳

[quote]I was pretty angry and sent a response saying I got the impression she didn’t want to see me again, I don’t want to be in a relationship with her because it’s too casual. That was a week ago and received no response.[/quote]

It sounds like she went on vacation for three weeks, and you texted her to ask how it was going, while she was gone. If you wanted to win her over, you might have let her know that you missed her, and flirted with her to keep the romance going. When she texted back that everything was fine, your response was not in line with what she was telling you. From her point of view, it was probably completely disjointed. My advice would have been that on her return, seeing that you didn’t hear from her while she was on vacation, you might have tried to take her out on a romantic date to rekindle things. 😎 Her silence is actually pretty appropriate considering you said you don’t want to be in a relationship with her any more. You basically broke up with her. No response on her end is normal.

It sounds like there’s a disconnect between what you want and what you say or the way you behave. If you love her, then you have to show her and act like it. 😉

I hope this helps.

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[Lune David]

Bro… disappearing for 3+ weeks on holiday with zero texts? 💀 That’s not a relationship, that’s a WiFi outage.

And then you hit her with the “I don’t want to be in a relationship anymore” message… and NOW you’re shocked she didn’t reply? 😂 My guy, you basically handed her the breakup and she just said “copy that” and walked away.

AskApril really gave you the calm but brutal truth:
You didn’t lose her. You rejected her… by accident.

But honestly, she went on vacation like it was witness protection, so even if you wanted things to work, she wasn’t exactly fighting for the championship either.

Lesson learned:
Next time, flirt during holidays, don’t launch a breakup text like it’s New Year’s fireworks.

But hey — it’s okay. Move on.
Because if someone can ghost you for two weeks while sipping cocktails, they’re probably not preparing a future with you.

AskApril delivered the wisdom.
I’m just here for the popcorn.

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