My ex and I had been together for six months. When I met him i was in the middle of going through so many life changes and I still wasn’t fully over a previous ex. But he was very caring and really was infatuated with me in the first stages. But being in a daze with everything that was going around me, I didn’t take him as seriously as I should have.
I had a lot of feelings for him in the beginning, but they were masked by my stress. Eventually the relationship turned mainly physical and less emotional. I had given him what I could to make him happy, but didn’t realize that what he wanted most was what I witheld from him, and that was more than just a physical connection.
I moved away to another city and he used that oppurtunity to call it quits with me, even though I was really determined before we had left to fix everything when I would come back. It crushed my whole world, because I wanted to be with him so much, I just knew that I couldn’t be without him. (I even did the dumbest thing ever and told him that I LOVED him before I left, when it was clear that he didn’t feel the same way. Later he admitted that he didn’t want it to be unfair for me since he didn’t feel the same way-it was another reason for the break-up).
I came back and we met up once, I could tell that he was very hurt by me, and it tore me inside to pieces. He was willing, though, to still hang out and talk, but after a few texts and very few calls, he hasn’t responded anymore.I’m afraid to see if he has moved on. I really am hurt by what I did, but I truly care about him, I want him back. I really [i]really [/i]learned from my mistakes and I’d never repeat what I did.
So after everything (it’s been about 2 to 3 weeks since i last heard from him-[b]and his birthday is coming up [/b]very soon) would it be appropriate to talk to him? Should I text him happy birthday? (There has been no hostility between us, we’re in a neutral state with each other) And the most important question, is there any hope at all to get back together? even though he [i]thinks [/i]that I wasn’t serious about him before?
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