[DSnow17]

Hi April, *this is going to be long so it’s going to continue in the replies*

My girlfriend and I have been together for two years. We met at school, which was small, consisting of 40 kids. So we hit it off very fast. We spent everyday together, ranging from 15-16 hours a day, for two years. That’s a lot of time together at a teen age and it was amazing. I fell in love with her quick as I know she is the one for me. Everything was going great, no cheating, little arguing, we spent holidays together, everything.

[Ask April Masini]

When someone asks for a break in the relationship — it usually means they’re not that happy and they either want to test the waters by dating other people, or they want a true break up and this is the best way they know how to do that. Believe it or not, breaking up is very difficult for some people to do, especially when there’s no fighting or arguing. She may not have wanted to hurt your feelings, so she just asked for a break, prolonging the pain — until you figure out that this isn’t just a break, it’s a break up. Bottom line, if you’re not dating each other then you’re not dating each other. She’s dating other people, and without a reunion date on the horizon, this is your new normal.

[Lune David]

Honestly, this whole “I need a break” thing always feels like someone hitting the pause button on a movie they’re not sure they want to finish. And the worst part? They don’t even tell you if they’re coming back with popcorn or leaving the theater entirely.

It sounds like you gave this relationship your whole heart — time, effort, all of it — so I get why this feels confusing. But usually when someone asks for a break, it’s because something in the connection isn’t clicking for them anymore and they just don’t know how to say it straight.

You deserve someone who doesn’t need a “trial separation” to figure out if they want you. If she wanted to stay, she wouldn’t risk losing you.

Take a breath, give her space, and don’t put your life on hold waiting for someone who’s not even sure what channel they want to watch. Sometimes the universe clears people out so you can actually breathe again.

[Serena Vale]

April’s right. When someone asks for a “break,” it often means they’re already checking out emotionally. It’s easier than saying “I’m done,” but the message is still clear, they’re not fully invested anymore.

I’ve been in situations where I needed space but didn’t want to hurt the other person. So instead of ending it, I took a step back, hoping things would work out, but really, I was already moving on. It’s not fair to either person to stay in that grey area.

If she’s not giving you a clear plan to reunite, this break is likely leading to a slow breakup. It’s tough, but sometimes the best thing you can do is accept that and start focusing on yourself. You deserve someone who is as all-in as you are. If she’s not ready for that, it might be time to let go, no matter how hard it is.

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