Hello!
So I have been with my current boyfriend for about 9 months now. I have major trust issues with him but I’ve never really expressed that to him, as far as he know I trust him completely. Which part of me truly does as I’m confident with myself without without him but there is still another part that is insecure and worries. I think I have these trust issue because at the beginning of us talking, we were basically friends with benefits and he was a flirty player type. And then we kept hanging out and feelings developed and now we’re seriously dating. I’ve looked through his phone a couple times (which I don’t agree with and hate that I do it but it is just so tempting.) I have never found anything too bad, just minor things that kind of upset me that I’m not happy he’s saying. For instance, his ex girlfriend of 4 years, and only other serious girlfriend he’s ever had, and they broke up about 3 years ago, will tag him on things on social media and he has knows that I’ve seen that. When I approached him about it, he said she will tag him in things and text him randomly here and there but he won’t really reply and it’s no reciprocated and it’s absolutely nothing to worry about, How happy he is with me and that’s all he’s worried about and reassured me how he has no feelings for her and he thinks she’s crazy. And that was end of convo. Two days later was when I looked in his text messages and saw their conversations, it was basically them reminiscing on old times and ‘how they lost each other’. He was very very friendly. Now that I’ve seen this I don’t know how to approach him about it because it obviously bothers me because he lied to me and is speaking to his ex even if it’s semi innocent. But I don’t want to tell him I went through his phone. What do you think I should do? How can I train myself to stop worrying and trust him more and not want to go through his phone?
Thank you!!
