April Masini[quote] It sounds like he’s angry about some things that may have nothing to do with you, and he’s acting out. So it will seem that he’s angry that you went away for the weekend without telling him or finding time to text him hello — but it’s not really what he’s truly angry about, underneath it all. It may be that he’s afraid of losing you so if he gets angry and provokes a fight, you’ll leave him and he can be right in his fear that you were going to all along. Or he may feel burned by some other relationship where the woman abandoned him and when he feels that you’re doing the same thing (even though you’re not), he’ll have a reaction to the original pain and you’ll have no clue that it’s not about you; you’re just the trigger.
Your questions are good ones, and my advice is to not engage in his provocation, but instead, take the high road. When he tells you that he’s going to be the bigger person and say hello, thank him — instead of getting defensive. Tell him that’s what you love about him. If he tells you that you didn’t do something — instead of arguing to be right, let it go and change the direction of the conversation by telling him you would never want to him and ask what you can do to make it up to him.