Relax. You don’t have a problem with your girlfriend. Everything is going fine with her. Your problem is with you. You’re looking for a problem that doesn’t exist in this relationship. It exists in your past. You mention that you have a history that involves your being cheated on, and chances are, you’re still scarred from that hurt and are looking to head off being hurt again.
If you don’t know how your girlfriend is feeling about you, rather than ask her straight out, which on a regular basis, broadcasts the message, I’m a really insecure guy, pay attention to her moods and any changes in her behavior. And if you still find yourself needing to ask her how she feels, don’t ask her point blank: How do you think our relationship is going? If you need to tell her how you feel, then you do it. But don’t survey her because you’re the one with the need to know.
Also, don’t bait her for a fight that starts out with you criticizing her for never telling you how she feels — when everything is going fine. You may find yourself trying to impose your past history of hurtful break ups on this relationship to replay history, or to subconsciously break up with her or cause her to break up with you because somehow in your head you figure the pain is coming, regardless, so you’d rather get it over with now.
Enjoy your life and your relationship with this woman for what it is. Try to let go of your past hurt and know that life brings good and bad surprises, and that you are strong enough to weather all of them. And right now, your relationship weather is sunny.
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