6+ Years & having some confusion!

Okay… You want opinions.. so here is mine and you can take it for what it’s worth. If you have been with this man for over 6 years and are still with him with only a minor split, then I don’t think that you will have any problem moving in with him. I think that your fantasy about being with the guy from work is just the classic “grass is greener on the other side” theory. I also think that if you were to take a break from this relationship to see other people that it is a very good possiblility that things would not go back to the way they were and it is also a very good possiblility that you may never get to go back if things don’t work out “seeing other people” If you have a good relationship with this man, then enjoy it and put effort into it. It doesn’t really sound to me like he is thinking of other options as you are. <This next statement is a generalization and not aimed at you but I am hoping that it might give you a little insight, again do not think that what I am about to say is aimed at you personally. That being said, I think that generally people have become lazy when it comes to relationships. It is easier to move on rather than put the work forward in order to sustain it. > The idea of being with someone new is not a crime but acting on the idea when you are happy is just a matter of self destruction. Why mess things up when they seem to be going so great. Why not move in together for a while see how it goes and see how the relationship grows and if later you find out that that it is not meant to be then deal with it then. Or very simply put don’t rock the boat. Unless you know for certain now that this relationship would never work, but it seems to me that you love this guy and he loves you, so why ruin it by “taking a break.” Relationships can get boring but thats where the “work” part of the relationship comes in. Again, this is my opinion and you can take it for what it’s worth.

Hi: Choosing to be with someone at a young age causes a person to miss out on so much. I’ve seen this happen with my brother. He started dating this girl when he was 18, she got pregnant and they got marriend when he was 20 and she was 19. They now have three kids. She tells him oneday, I don’t want to be in this relationship any longer… I need time to find myself, she’s hooked up with this really dysfunctional man–drug user, aggressive, and abusive in his past relationships; and he’s demonstrated this type of behavior with her on a few instances. She has given up connections with family, is ignoring her friends, and is even willing to give her kids up to the husband with no hesitation. I guess the moral of this story “If you don’t know who you are seperate from your partner, you’ll come to the same crossroad in any other relationship you pursue. You have to experience things like travelling alone, or going on a cruise with a bunch of your girlfriends; you need to look inside of yourself and create goals, outline things that you’d like to do before you get married… you need to celebrate YOU!” I’m forty… I’ve had a wonderful career, I have participated in treasure hunts where I’ve had to steal lawn ornaments, approach truckers for signatures, take a picture of a friend in the nude, I’ve used a sling-shot to shoot bubble gum balls at garage doors–lol, I’ve traveled with friends to theme parks and went on trips with the girls; I stated working on my personal issues when I was 20–counselling, treatment, therapy, personal training… I am really comfortable with who I am. I got married 8 years ago thinking I would have the perfect relationship… it was great for 4 years. Today, I find my relationship is empty because I’ve grown beyond my husband; and he can’t meet my emotional and spiritual needs… I understand where you are coming from; because at 40 I am there too. Make choices that are best for you and good luck.

Awesome post….. Thanks all.I would like to share some information about girls and boys dating.i have dated on and off line with some success. Dating should not require this much thought. One- if the guy likes you he will show it. Confidence is the key. if he is good looking, confident, and interested he will kiss you before the night is over. A little aggressiveness is always a good thing. Trust me on this. Two- becoming friends shows a lack of interest on one of your parts. This is usually showed when the guy doesn’t try to kiss the girl or the girl pulls away and the guy doesn’t try again. if both of you are interested it doesn’t make it to friends much less best friends. On the 3rd point the author made. Real men don’t have to boast all the time. it shows a real lack of confidence. who needs a high maintenance man. move on. 4th- I have never heard of a man afraid of kissing a girl. This is disillusion. If he isn’t making a move on a date he isn’t interested. Girls always look for a good balance in a man. he doesn’t have to be pushy or overly aggressive, but don’t chase after someone who isn’t interested either.

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉