I’m very sorry about your husband. What a sad story. 🙁 Because his recent death was so traumatic — for both you and your child, my advice is to slow things down with your social life. You met this guy only two months after your husband died and you’ve only been dating him for three months and already issues like this guy’s suicidal tendencies as well as marriage are coming up. Slow down. Consider taking a year to heal from the aftermath of your husband’s death. Then, play the field. Don’t jump into anything. You’ve been through so much it will be easy to make decisions now that you might regret later. So after a year of healing, use this timetable: The first three months of dating anyone should be used simply to get to know each other and to decide if you want to continue dating. If you do, use the second three months to decide if you want monogamy. And don’t make any big decisions, like moving in together or getting engaged, for the first year. This may seem like it’s slow as molasses, but you’ll be focusing on getting to know each other over that time period and you’ll be less likely to jump into something that’s a mistake.
As for this guy, he’s suicidal and he needs help you can’t give him. Therefore, you need to take his threats to commit suicide seriously. Reach out for help — call his family, a hospital, your doctor, a fire department on an emergency operator and tell them when he threatens suicide. You have to take this seriously — for your health and his. Report his suicide attempts today — and take a dating break for a year. Just nurture your child and yourself. You deserve some peace and nurturing. Take it.
I hope that helps. Let me know if you have any other questions.
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