[Honestly25]

Two days ago me and my biyfriend argue over something that is absolutely ridiclous. We supposes to have a relationship where we respect each other things. I have a cd case with over too hundred movies in their which I paid for. She tries to sneak them out the house because he knew I was going to say something about taking my things else where without asking me first. I told me he need to ask me before taking my things first and make sure h ebrings my stuff back. So he got mad and I have not talk to him in two days when I call him he act like he do not want to talk. I call him the next day he was getting a hair cut and I told him to call me back when he get finish. He did not call back, then i did not call him no more. I seen him on facebook and ask him is he still acting silly over some petty stuff he said I had the wrong guy. I proceeded to tell him the same thing over again that we argue about. He said that I thought that we was going to let his mother and father keep some of the movies which that was not the case. The point that I tried to stress to him is that they are my items you just don’t take my things with asking. Not to mention he is very protective over his things. Why do he feel that he can do what he wants with mines and do not want me to borthr his stuff without asking. Am I wrong? Even if his mother and father wanted to watch so movies he still has to ask me first right?

[April Masini]

You’re not at fault if you expect your boyfriend to ask permission to take your DVDs to his house. It’s normally good manners to ask before taking someone else’s things — even if you’re dating– or married! Your boyfriend is very protective of his own things, so clearly he knows how he’d like his things to be treated. Not extending that same courtesy to you is very selfish.

However, if he hasn’t talked to you in at least a week because you’ve asked him to please ask permission before he borrows your things, I believe that there is something going on beneath the surface. This isn’t about your DVDs — it’s about his not respecting you and his not caring enough about you to call you back.

I suspect this isn’t the only problem in the relationship where he is acting like you should take care of him even when he displays bad manners. Rethink the relationship. He’s not acting like Mr. RIght! 😳

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