am i being an overprotective jealous psycho?

[happylove]

so my bf an i have been dating for about 9 months now…feels like forever though we saw each other everyday and spent countless hours together before/after classes. its summer vacation now and i cant see him at all cause my parents are strict and im not supposed to date. i’ll be 20 in july,btw. my bf and i rarely argue over anything, probably because we did everything together and were there for each other when problems surfaced. we webcam in the nite and fall asleep “together” after we talk. lately ive been the one to say good night and he just stays online watching videos or tv shows or whatever.
its been annoying actually, cause we’d fall asleep around the same time and now hes up till at least 1 or2am and im the one to sleep around the time we used to, at 10:30-11ish.
i trust him, ive never questioned anything. hes good to me, and a wonderful boyfriend.

last night it came to my attention that he was im-ing one of my friends overseas. we’ve helped her out with her guy problems several times but she doesnt know that i am in fact dating the guy im with all the time-for personal reasons. shes told me on several occasions about how she thinks hes adorable and how every guy should be like him. that has only made me appreciate/realize what i have and i took that to my advantage. shes a very sweet girl.

we stopped hearing from her about 2 months ago. most of our communication with her was via facebook/gmail and all of a sudden we saw that she was active and well, earlier this week. i messaged her 2/3 times asking her how’d she been and such,but no reply. however when my bf makes conversation she replies and they actually have one.

i got sleepy last nite around my usual knock-out time and told my bf over webcam that i wanted to stay up and watch a movie but i was too tired and that i’d nap for an hour and come back instead. i set an alarm for 12:15 and as i was saying bye to him he told me our friend messaged him. so like anyone would have asked i said “oh how is she? wat are u guys talking about?” to be honest i thought i’d be able to atleast ask that much,because i introduced the two. he told me he’d go to bed after finishing up a video within 20mins-half hour. and at that point he was so caught up in their conversation while i was on webcam- i thought it to be a little rude, and said forget it, im going to bed ill be back later. he types away and didnt even realize i left.

so i come back after an hour only to find out that they’re still msging each other, talking about the same thing apparently. at that point i was beyond annoyed but i did a really good job at pretending everything was perfectly normal and told him i was going back to keep. he said okay.

this morning i go on facebook to see that he commented her asking her if she was okay/alive..are u fine..u stoped iming…blahblah
so im like wow..that was pretty late, around 1am
i went on oovoo this morning[the webcam thing we use] and saw that he was online, but idle cause he was still asleep and msged him anyway.
i said good morning & that i was upset about something and that i’d talk to him later.

i got a “good morning, how are u” text an hour later and im thinking wow..he was so concerned about our “friend” last nite asking her if she was okay/alive and what not but when i actually TOLD him i was upset about something he made no attempt to ask me about what upset me.

am i being a psycho? i mean i feel weird that he puts me away to bed and stays on the computer into the wee hrs of the a.m. hes talking to our friend in the middle of the nite who has a crush on him and doesnt even talk to me anymore. i also told him twice this week..like hey listen babe shes not talking to me anymore but shes talkin to u thats kinda strange. and he said nothing…he doesnt see anything wrong with that picture.
im the person to not say anything at first and let my anger grow. but when i saw that comment on fbk to her early this morning i was hurt. and i actually TOLD him about me feeling down. i never do that.

i dont know how i can not turn this into a big deal. we dont see each other and its not all that easy to makeup after a fight anymore.

all comments are welcome.. 😐

[April Masini]

It’s a little strange that your parents don’t let you date when you’re practically 20, and you date when you’re at college, but the bigger problem is that you’re imposing that same control your parents have on you on your boyfriend by wanting him to go to bed at a certain time because you do! It’s not abnormal for him to be on the webcam or online or texting other people after you go to sleep.

It’s also unfair for you to be upset that your girlfriend is interested in him when you haven’t even told her you’re dating him! You should tell her that you’ve been dating him for 9 months so she has the opportunity to be respectful of the relationship.

I hope that helps — I know it’s probably not [i]exactly[/i] what you wanted to hear.

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