Am I being played?? Or is she interested?!

[mtoner26]

I’m in 10th grade and the girl I really like is in 11th.She is incredibly gorgeous btw. My friends don’t think she’s that hot but I do!! We went on a date before during the summer at a coffee shop but she brought her sister along due to plans afterwards. I was texting her on Snapchat but then when I asked for a screenshot of something she gave me her number. I always start the conversations. Also, I asked her if she wants to go bowling since she’d never been. She said “That’d be dope!!” but she is SUPER ****ing busy all week (clubs and programs). She also said she wouldn’t mind going to the gym with me. How to know if she’s interested considering all these things???Is she playing with my emotions or playing hard to get or just being nice?? Thanks!!

[mtoner26]

Oh and I forgot to mention, after the date in the summer, I didn’t text her back for the rest of the summer ’cause I had the thought that we would would just talk when school started. This resulted in her removing me on Facebook(which is where we were messaging). Then, when school started, I was being ignored almost as if I had done something wrong. She was however, happy af when I asked for her Snapchat.

[caseyghatchell]

[quote=”mtoner26″]I’m in 10th grade and the girl I really like is in 11th.She is incredibly gorgeous btw. My friends don’t think she’s that hot but I do!! We went on a date before during the summer at a coffee shop but she brought her sister along due to plans afterwards. I was texting her on Snapchat but then when I asked for a screenshot of something she gave me her number. I always start the conversations. Also, I asked her if she wants to go bowling since she’d never been. She said “That’d be dope!!” but she is SUPER ****ing busy all week (clubs and programs). She also said she wouldn’t mind going to the gym with me. How to know if she’s interested considering all these things???Is she playing with my emotions or playing hard to get or just being nice?? Thanks!![/quote]

Considering the situations you mentioned in the post, I would say she is playing with you. She is not interested in you, if so she already would have responded to your queries. After all there is nothing more important a loving person interest.

[April Masini]

I do think she’s interested. 🙂 You have to understand that you didn’t contact her all summer after a first date. That may have felt like rejection to her. 🙁 I know you didn’t mean it that way, but from her point of view, she probably wondered why you disappeared. I know you figured you’d see her when school started, but two or three months of silence, after a date (even if it wasn’t an ideal date), is rejection. She was probably a little hurt, and that’s why she unfriended you from Facebook. If she says she’d like to go to the gym with you, then I think you should ask her to go to the gym! And then out for a smoothie or lunch. Build on that! But definitely give it a shot. You have very little to lose, and a lot to gain! 🙂

[mtoner26]

So I really liked this girl and some girls in my class gave me advice and told me to ask her upfront if she was interested in me. So I texted her. I asked if there was any interest in me and she said “Not really, not looking for a relationship right now”. After seeing this, I was denying it at first. I then played the song “Everybody Hurts” by REM and that when the waterfalls started coming down. I don’t know why but I just couldn’t stop myself from crying. This girl made me feel like she wanted me. She said yes to dates that she was too busy to, she gave me her number, she even sent the heart emoji once (lol). She even played the song Stay by Rihanna to me on piano. WTF?! You can check out one of my previous posts about the same girl in my forum posts.
I’m also posting a pic of the rejection message. Whats y’alls opinions on this and how am I supposed to react to this situation?

[April Masini]

Is this the same woman you wrote about in January? Or someone different?

[mtoner26]

Same girl. Not sure if I should apologize or what? Either way, I have a feeling that the interest that was once there is gone now due to my idiotic actions.

[April Masini]

This is the advice I’d given you about her…. did you try it?

[quote]I know you didn’t mean it that way, but from her point of view, she probably wondered why you disappeared. I know you figured you’d see her when school started, but two or three months of silence, after a date (even if it wasn’t an ideal date), is rejection. She was probably a little hurt, and that’s why she unfriended you from Facebook. If she says she’d like to go to the gym with you, then I think you should ask her to go to the gym! And then out for a smoothie or lunch. Build on that! But definitely give it a shot. You have very little to lose, and a lot to gain![/quote]

[mtoner26]

I still tried to ask her out but she’s busy.She would say yes though. What’s the point anyway if she tells me shes not interested?

[April Masini]

If she tells you she’s not interested, then you have the answer to your question — and you should move on. Next! 🙂

[mtoner26]

Update: I honestly stopped trying with this girl but she flirts with me in school. Gets close to me, initiates the conversations, makes excuses to touch me, and just says flirtatious stuff. What am I to do? Is she honestly interested or is playing hard to get or just trying to get attention? Please reply April!!!

[April Masini]

Did you take my advice and ask her out?

[mtoner26]

I did ask a while back to which she replied yes but was busy. Very recently, she asked ME if I wanted to be her gym buddy. I think I might be friendzoned. Thoughts?

[April Masini]

Ask her out on a date. 😉

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