I have been married for over 21 years. I have recently found that my husband had been visiting dating sites and communicating with several women looking for a “relationship”. I also found that he has been communicating with his ex-wife who he was married to for 5 years. Seven years ago I had caught him emailing her, telling her that he loved her. They were planning on getting together but decided not to because I could “ruin” him career-wise. (He was at a high rank in the Navy.) I stayed because I loved him and figured I could forgive and move on. A year after this my husband went to his daughter’s wedding and of course, his ex was there. This was out of the state we lived in. Through some old emails, I learned that he had tried to have sex with her but she didn’t want to without fulfilment. I am by no means perfect, but I have never cheated on my husband. I’ve tried to do my best raising kids and tending to a family but I’ve never really felt that I was good enough since all this happened several years ago. When I try to talk to him about it, he gets angry because I was “snooping”; I end up getting the blame for all this! I now feel that I can’t trust him even though I do love him. I’m so torn and it’s really starting to take a toll on me! I could really use some advice. I live far away from family and I don’t have anyone close by that I can talk to. Please help!
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