[Kellyreedus]

I have had a guy friend that I have been working with for a couple years now that I have very strong f eelings for. He and I have had a rocky year last year because of some of the things he has done.

His girlfriend and him broke up and he began to have a little thing with me. Of course he and I hung out, kissed, and I thought I was on my way to working out a relationship, but just a couple days after he had hung out with me he gets a gf. I get mad and stop taking to him.

A week later they break up and we are close again, but after a month he begins to say that he just wants to be single he wants to do him for a while . I was hurt but I could t rush him into anything he didn’t want so I thought id just give him some time.

Unfortunately no less than a week later he gets a gf.

I felt crushed . I don’t talk to him for a while but after a week we are talking again. However, he begins his flirting again, he sent me a message saying exactly this ” if me and her break up , half the time I’m hoping I wanna be with you and see what we could be , it’s worth the risk seeing how we get along and we have a lot in common.”

Now I got excited thinking he might finally give us a chance but days go by and nothing. He flirted and texted me but nothing else happened.

It bothered me to the point where I brought it up and he said I misinterpreted it and it’s not what he meant. Now I am trying to cut him off completely and he acts like I’m the one who is wrong.

I’m so heartbroken and angry I want to show you screen shots of the texts because he just doesn’t see that he strung me along and hurt me.

What do I do?

[April Masini]

The first three months of dating anyone is just the getting to know you phase, and you should always assume the other person is playing the field (as he should assume about you). So he didn’t really betray you, as much as you overestimated the time you spent together before he moved on. That said, it’s completely understandable that you’re disappointed and hurt. Rejection isn’t fun. 🙁

However… what I hope you can see now, since he’s dated you two separate times, and dumped you within a week both times, to date someone else, is that you’re his back up person, his rebound woman, and not someone he sees anything serious with. If he’s in between girlfriends, he’ll date you, but I don’t think you can count on someone who does this, for a relationship.

Whether or not he strung you along, you’re onto him now! 😉 Don’t engage with him — he’s not the boyfriend you’re looking for and the more you argue with him, the more frustrated you’re going to get. Just move on and find someone else to date who’s more interested in you for the long-term! 😀 Sometimes rejection like this is a great gift because it lets you see clearly who to avoid.

[Author]

Posts