You are very bright and mature and have a healthy curiosity and interest in dating that is age appropriate. That said, most, but not all, high school boys are not as mature as their female counterparts. They’re slower to catch up in terms of maturity. That’s why you’re seeing boys being clingy, saying, “I love you,” way too soon, and basically bumbling through the beginning of their dating careers. But, I want to caution you that this isn’t an across the board rule. There are lots of boys your age who are mature, and even as mature as you. They’re just a little harder to find — right now.
So, in answer to your question, I don’t think you’re setting your standards too high for teenage boys, but I think you also have to be realistic about the fact that all teenagers are experimenting with dating. It’s new. And mistakes will be made — guaranteed! But that’s how you figure out who you are, what you like, who you like, and whether or not you want to date someone at all, or a little more often.
You don’t have to wait until the guys are older. It’s healthy to go out on age appropriate dates with guys at your age. So keep your standards, but also understand your choices. Teenage boys have a lot going for them in so many ways, but they’re just trying to figure out their emotions and social manners when it comes to dating, so cut them some slack, while balancing your own standards.
Hope that helps! 🙂
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