am i the problem?

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Thank you april and kai…

Hi
i have a new question 😀 i saw a new teacher in university and she is older than me. she is not my teacher ( my type is different with her ). we talked 1 hour because i have many question about one thing and she knows. my questions are not done and i will see her again.
so please advice me step by step for pick up her. i know it’s not easy.

P.S: i try to fit my body. i’ve been better than before.

[April Masini]

You should flirt with her! Compliment her. Ask her out to dinner.

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i flirted with her last her. i am afraid to invite her out. maybe she report me? for that i want move slowly.
is it good i get her phone number in next meet?

[April Masini]

[quote]i flirted with her last her. i am afraid to invite her out. maybe she report me? for that i want move slowly.
is it good i get her phone number in next meet?[/quote]

Woah — what would she report you for? Flirting isn’t illegal, and neither is asking someone out on a date! You should definitely ask for her phone number if things seem to be going well. In other words, if she flirts back with you, laughs at your jokes, and seems to like you, then that’s your cue to ask for her number. Let me know how it goes!

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report my to university because i am student in university and she is teacher in university.
i got her phone number today 😀 ( i told please give me your phone number for, maybe i have another question for my project and need your help ) what i do for next step ????

[April Masini]

Got it. As long as you are a legal adult, you shouldn’t have any problem — unless your university prohibits you from asking out employees. So, check. If you are underage, you should not ask her out. And definitely don’t lie about your age. If you are a teenager or under 21, there could be serious consequences for her if she dates you. But if you’re not a minor, and if she has no employee restrictions from the university, then I’m not sure what the problem is. But these are legal question and I’m not an attorney. Just a relationship expert! So, let’s get back to that skill set! It’s great you got her phone number, but not so great you lied about it…. I think you should call her, and tell her the truth is you asked for her phone number so you could ask her out on a date, and would she like to go for coffee with you on Friday night…. Be flirtatious and complimentary, and if you can do this in person, instead of on the phone, even better! Good luck!!! Let me know how it goes.

[Girkeys20]

Hi! I’m new here and for the life of me I can’t find the “post a comment” page anywhere on the website. But I do have a question all my own (again, sorry for posing on someone else’s thread).

I had been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years. When it started out we were very in love with each other; we had made plans for the future, we wanted to get married one day once we were both out of college.

Lately, copious amounts of drama amid all our lifelong friends (none having to do with us, thankfully) has left me, personally, feeling completely crumbled. This fear of losing more people I care about has made me really hesitant to love anyone past a certain point because I’m scared I’ll lose them too once I do. I know I “shouldn’t let fear rule my life”, and all that jazz but the fact is that this is how it is right now and that’s a whole ‘nother conversation..

Anyway, long story short, I don’t know if its this fear eating away at my love for my boyfriend or the simple possibility that I’m just not “feeling it” anymore. He treats me like a queen and adores me (miraculously) and I know that its a very rare possibility for me to find someone else who loves me that much.. Though, I have been talking (friendly chit chat) to a few other guys over the course of this time that somehow get my heart pounding. I don’t want to lead him on if that relationship’s just done with and I don’t want to be stuck with someone forever whom I have very little romantic feelings towards; but at the same time, I don’t want to make a mistake by giving up something that I obviously should be happy with, past my own current struggles.

We are currently on a “break”.

For the first time in my life, I utterly do not know what to do.. What is “selfish” and what is “unselfish”? So, I ask you, please. What do you think is the “right thing” in this predicament?

[ealltech]

You’re still young, go to a date, don’t miss your chance, but don’t take everything to heart after the first dating, then to not be hurt! Don’t think that will be in future, live now!

[April Masini]

More good advice!

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Hiiiiii
i don’t have internet 2 months. Congratulation to new them, it’s so beautiful.
ealtech, i like you quote ” Don’t think that will be in future, live now! “.
my new topic is about future! i met a teenage girl ( 17 ) and she is my girlfriend 2 months. we ha argue, laughing times, romantic times and etc…
she is loyal. that point is important. i talked with her about how be in street or out. she has high grades in school ! she while reads the lessons and play listening the music and watching tv every day at home.
So my concern is: she watching cheap Films! those are not good! ( turkish films are about fake love, betray ). i don’t like y girlfriend watchs these films! even she is lazy and don’t like work at home , helps her mother and etc. ( i am thinking about future 😀 )

[April Masini]

It’s very common for couples to have different interests, and you wouldn’t be the first or last couple who didn’t like the same sort of films! 😉 Find a way to be okay with the difference in your tastes in movies. I’m sure there are things you like that she doesn’t. This doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. 🙂

As for her laziness, she’s a teenager. Many teenagers are lazy, and since you’re an adult, you may want to find another adult to date so you can have more in common when it comes to attributes you want in a future wife. It’s a little difficult to know how a teenager will turn out, but an adult is easier to gauge.

Hope that helps! 😀

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of course that helped <3
i afraid the subject of movies. i have seen a lot of American and European films but they are different subject of love or life than Turkish films! Turkish films show that the mother of girl betrayal when she has a nice husband! and girl’s father try to get him wife! ( o.O ). that girl have many boyfriends and all of them are rich!
this isn’t true love! you can see films in gem online tv.

is it affect?

she said i am going to study for future. and then i like to work outside of home and never work at home. ( she has a nicely mother. i met her and we talked. ). so all teenage girl are this thinking?
i think when i am with a teenage girl i can change her mind how i like. this is really hard.

April, suggestion a book or website that i can learning about teenage girl.
thanks a million 😡

[April Masini]

Movies and art can affect people — and we all have choices, so it’s a good idea for you to try and be open minded and accept her differences — or find someone else to date. It sounds like you want to date teenagers so you can “change their minds” and it might be easier for you if you dated an adult like yourself, who is compatible in values by choice so that you have that much more in common. 😉

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Hi dear April
could you give me your e-mail please? send in private message or here. thank you

[April Masini]

Sorry — I don’t give out my personal email. Is there a question I can answer for you on the forum?

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