am I thinking too much about this?

[relationshipa1]

my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months now. Today he told me that most of his friends are girls, and I’m not sure how I feel about that. One one side, i know that he was in choir and usually choirs are full of girls, but on the other side i kinda really wish that he had more guy friends then girl friends. It kinda bugs me that he hangs out with a lot of girls. I was talking to my friend about this, and she told me that he needs to make it clear to all of his friends that he’s happily taken. When she pointed this out, I thought about if he does that or not, and I realized that I don’t know because whenever we hang out with his friends theres this one girl that I usually pay more attention to because of the way he acts around her. I’m pretty sure that if I was a stranger and I saw them hanging out I probably would think that they were dating.
I’ll give you an example: one time we went to see a movie with a few of his friends, and she was there. When he walked into the lobby and saw her he ran up to her and picked her up and spun her around in a circle. He never does this with me. when we sat down in the theater, he sat inbetween us, and he spent pretty much all the waiting time talking to her, and all I felt like was an object that was just there for him to touch cuz he barely said five sentences to me the entire time.
He definetly is not sending the signal to her that he is happily taken. I’m not sure what to do because I’ve talked to him about how he acts with her, but now that he’s pointed out that he has a lot of friends that are girls I’m kinda worried. What if he acts that way with other girls too?

am I thinking too much about this?

[April Masini]

I don’t know how old you are (which always helps me give advice), but I’m going to guess that you’re old enough to understand how dating works. Men (and women) are free to date whomever they want to try and find the best possible person for themselves. If he’s interested in someone else, as you’re describing, it’s totally fair game for him to see if she’s a better match for him than you are. The two of you aren’t engaged, living together or married — you both have a responsibility to find the best possible Mr. or Ms. Right for yourselves.

That said, if you want to win a guy over, read Think & Date LIke A Man, [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], so you understand how to attract and capture Mr. Right! You can buy the book on the link I’ve just given you where it’s an automatic download or you can get it on the websites for Barnes & Noble or Amazon.

Instead of just thinking, do something different instead of trying to give him boundaries (he already has a mother! 😉 ).

I hope that helps. Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter.

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