Asking someone out when you barely know them

[IntrovertedNotShy]

Hi April, so recently I had my work Christmas party and before it a few of us met up for a drink. There was this woman there, a colleague, someone I had noticed before, and liked, but until that evening had never talked to, and from that point on I’ve developed a crush for her.

There was a bit of playful banter throughout the night but I’ll put that down to drink than anything else. Though it included buying me a drink or two, a chat and being playful with my phone.

My problem is that I don’t know her and I never get a chance to get to talk to her. Sometimes there are opportunities where I could but the odds are very low.

I could add her on social media and etc but I would prefer to come across as confident and I believe face to face is better, especially as we work in the same place.

I know what I want to say, I just don’t know how to approach her. I want to invite her out for a drink or a coffee and get to know her, see if we get along.

It’s also a confidence thing that stops me from approaching her whilst she’s with other people. I know there will never be a perfect time to do so, however I would appreciate your opinion.

Thank you so much for any help you can give.

[April Masini]

Get her phone number from a friend or a friend of a friend — tell them you’re interested in her, and you’d like her number. This will get back to her, which is a good thing because she may be excited to hear from you. Then call her up and tell her you really enjoyed seeing her at the party and you wish you’d had a chance to talk to her. Then let her respond. This is how you get the conversation going. You can ask her about the party, if she had a good time, how her holiday is and was, and then ask if she’d like to have dinner with you. It’s that simple! 😉

Your instinct about not using social media is correct — it’s really not an attractive way to contact someone you want to make a good impression on. So, forget that — and do get her number, call her up, have a conversation and ask her to have dinner with you. 😉

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