Back from a Break ??

[Appleslices94]

My ex and I took a break and he reached out to me after 8 months and wanted to continue where things left off and so we talked about everything and every since Saturday he hasn’t messaged me like he’s taking longer

He had mentioned that he’s been having a horrible week at work. So idk if I’m overthinking things…I feel like everything will be alright but my mind thinks that it’s the same thing over again

I’m not sure how to react to it. Like I want to be calm cause we aren’t exactly together we are dating and taking things slow until we can go back into a relationship but i guess it just hurts when he doesn’t talk back…

He mentioned that he still loves me a lot, he missed me a lot during the break but didn’t want to message me until he had everything situated (he had a lot going on) and he reached out to me when he finally had things under control. I love him a lot and we want to make things work he even said it himself that he is positive we can work things out but wants to take things slow cause he doesn’t want anything going wrong. I’m just confused please help me.

[April Masini]

Okay, so you’re 21 and he’s 23. You dated for four months, then took an eight month break, and now he’s reached out to you about possibly getting back together again, but since you’ve spoken, it sounds like he’s reticent. He isn’t responding to your texts as quickly as you’d like, and while the two of you are dating, you’re not in a “relationship” just yet. I’m sorry you’re confused. I think that you’ve been pretty clear with me about what’s going on and the problem for you is that you don’t have [i]his[/i] clarity about the relationship. The thing is, an eight month break is a long time — and I don’t know why you took a break in the first place. Something must have been bothering one or both of you to agree to that long of a break. Whatever it is, it sounds like he’s still thinking it through, otherwise you’d have more of the positive reaction you’re looking for. 🙂 My advice is to hang back and chill. If you press him he’ll feel like you’re needy, which isn’t attractive. On the other hand, I think you have to assume that you’ve got competition. He may be dating other people or he may just be busy. Either way, it’s important that when he does hear from you or see you that you’re someone he wants to spend more time with — not run from because you’re demanding and unhappy about the relationship status. 🙂 I hope that helps!

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