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Hi April,
Sorry for such a long post, first of all.
My bf was nvr a committed one. But when i told him abt my divorce is sure, he became very excited and said that ok, i m ready to accept you now. And i love u a lot. At dat time he was in different city for a job and btw, he LEFT me dat time for dat job. Its just dat he used to call me once a month aa if he is still dere. Ok… so, whn i told him abt divorce, he said above mentioned and gave me a green signal for marriage. I was going thru a very difficult phase of my life and dat too… Alone. He said that he anyways dont want to stay wid his parents bcoz they dont connect wid each other. He accepted me.

But just after a wk, he said he is not going to marry me and m already married ans stuff like dat. I requested him not to do dis bcoZ i was already shattered and was alone and hurt. He too was in different city but he called me characterless and disconnected. Den after a month he called up and abused me verbally, disconnected. It happened like almost for 6 months… All those abuses.

Den after total 9 months he came bck all of a sudden and said m back for u. He lost his job dere. And now working here currently. But still he refused to marry me. He still used to verbally abused me on phn.
I was so hurt dat i changed my number and whn he came to knw dat, he came to my house unannounced and startes shouting dat m having an affair elsewhere dats y i changed my number. Which was not true. He was d only one in my life. But no use.

He used to come to house 2wice eveey month (unannounced) to chk my phn and house whether someonez dere or not and he nvr found anything or anyone. Called me characterless etc agn. And left. Den he agn came but i refused to let him in. Den after a wk i saw him flirting wid someone but he refused to accept. I went to his house to ask but he didnt gv me any answer.

Den he came after a day to say that he is not having any affair and i m misunderstanding him. Den he left. But i seriously dont knw wht happened to him bcoz he told his mom dat i m spoiling his life and is after him. I m not leaving him alone. He even told her dat i came to his house to ask abt affair. His mom insulted me like anything on a middle of d road dat stop running after my son. Its all ur fault and not his bcoz HE IS A BOY AND U R GIRL. If he has given a chance, he will do everything bcoz he is a BOY. Its ur responsibility to stop him. U r characterless etc etc. I said its not all my fault, he used to come to my house and he called him up and said dat she is blaming everything on u. I said y r u lying, i didnt said it. I walked out frm dere. and she kept shouting dat i will kill u if i see u agn.
All dis time he nvr came to talk and changed his number too. He blamed everyrhing on me. i hv no words how cheap he is and what he has done to me. He lied to his mom and ahw also blamed me for evwrything. I saw him ystrday while he was going to office and he was hiding at first whn he saw me but widin a minute he came and crossed me. I nvr stopped him even whn he was looking at me.

One of my fren knws abt it and he felt insulted whn he came to knw. But wht do i do, m so alone i need someone to talk to….

I m soooo hurt by all d abv dat i cant just stop crying. We live in a same society its impossible to ignore.
Oh and btw, he left me 4 timea b4 too. But alwz came bck. But dis time, he inaulted me like hell and his mom was so cheap.

Please tell me what do i do now. M not abke to forget anything he did to me one after d other. And den he blamed eveeything on me. Please.

And our relation is 4 yrs old and i m 32 and he is 30. If this can help.
Thanku

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Forgot to tell u dat hia mom a very liar. She lies abt everything. She must hv tols him dat ahw blamed evrything on u and she said its all ur fault. U came to her house. U did wrong to her etc.

Even whn he knws dat her nom lie a lot, he will believe it. I knw. I dont what lies his mom told him.

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