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Hello,

My name is Jason and this is my first time ever coming to these forums and asking for advice. My problem begins when I first met this girl. It was at a Christmas charity dinner that my mom forced me to go two years ago. She wanted to introduce me to one of the girls that was working with the charity that she thought was very nice. I was skeptical about this because my mother has a habit of only seeing the surface of teenage girls (Most are extremely superficial and not my type at all.) But my mother really surprised me this time. This girl was up and beyond my expectations and made me feel extremely uncomfortable. She’s perfect.. Beautiful, Smart, Intelligent, Witty, a good sense of humor, and very well spoken. As corny as it sounds it feels as if this is the closest thing I’ve been to love at first sight. We spent the evening talking and getting to know each other. At the end of the night I asked for her number and she gave it. When I went home that night it felt like the adrenaline disappeared and I was left feeling unconfident about the whole thing and that she would never go out with me because I’m just not good enough for her. This was two years ago and I’ve moved on since then. I’ve never forgotten about her and often checked up on her a few times. During this time I’ve gotten into a unhealthy relationship with a girl. This relationship stemmed from me just being tired of being lonely. And I decided to date her just for the sake of not being alone anymore. This is where I entered a spiral of sex, lust, and many many fights. I finally broke it off just last summer deciding that she’s just not that type of girl that I want to be in a meaningful relationship in. I had a talk with my mother and she put some things into perspective and told me that I should value myself higher than I do. I’m an intelligent bring young guy, and I can do much better than what I’m aiming for. I thought this over for a few weeks and thought about all the girls that I’ve been interested in the past few years. I’ve counted them all in my head and found out that they were ALL not what I would truly want in a girlfriend. But this one girl got through.. And I looked her up that same night. She’s in university now and doing very well. She’s as beautiful as ever and has a lot more going in her life. She’s a pageant winner and involved in many charities and extra activities. Now more then ever I feel as hopeless and unconfident than I first did. It’s been almost two years since I’ve last spoken to her.

Please help me!

– Jason

[April Masini]

As you are figuring out, it’s not that hard to get sex from a woman. It’s not even that hard to get a date or a girlfriend. What is more difficult, and gives you a much bigger payoff, is finding Ms. Right. 🙂

You sound like you’ve been a combination of insecure and lazy when it comes to dating. When you write that this woman you’ve been thinking about for years now, was first introduced to you, you were scared. I’m betting that that feeling of fear (of rejection) was what kept you from asking her out on a date. You’ve remained lazy in your dating behavior by choosing girls with whom you could get sex, but not much more.

Today’s the day you get to turn your life around, roll up your sleeves and start dating with a purpose — that purpose being finding a woman who is as terrific as you are and one who brings out your best qualities, because they are naturally hers, too.

I’ve written a book called Date Out of Your League for men who are afraid to go after the girl they want because they think they’re not good enough for her and can’t get her, so why bother? This book will help you understand how to get the woman you want — page by page there are tips and pieces of advice that will help you get up your best game and self so you can get the best woman! Download the book for $14.95 (bargain!) here [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url].

Read the book, then dust off that old phone number for the woman you’ve been thinking about all these years, and dial her up. You deserve a great woman, so go get her! 😀

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