Confused~

[KelvinHo]

Greetings to all.. Hope you all can assist with my problem..

About 6months ago, I knew this female colleague of mine at my work. The first time, I had conversation with her was regarding work related stuff. She was pretty (at least to me) and always helped me regarding my work; hence a positive image was created. We talked about nothing else other than work related stuff. Her name was; Amanda
I have 1 male friend who I knew him for about 3 years plus; namely Kenny. Kenny knew Amanda for about 2 years and current status of Kenny was engaged with another lady.
About 4 months ago, I was talking to my friend; Kenny over the facebook when he mentioned about Amanda. I was kindly curious and he eventually linked me to her profile. I added Amanda on facebook and sent her a message seeking permission to be friends but she did not reply or add me as friend. Her facebook status was single and her profile was open. Things started to be out of place after I added Amanda on facebook.
Directly the day after I added her on facebook, my friend Kenny started disturbing me. He claimed that he got her phone number and even messaged her frequently. I thought that all was just a prank hence I ignored him. Amanda’s behaviour towards me changed too, whenever I saw her along the corridor, she would just stared at me but whenever I looked back at her she would turn away. There were even occasions when I heard her talking to her group of friends, but whenever I appeared, she would just keep quiet and looked away. Initially, I thought I did something wrong and I just let the matter to rest.
About 3 months ago, Amanda’s mother passed away. It was on my off-duty rest day when my friend Kenny contacted me and informed me about the news. Kenny even offered to give me Amanda’s number but I rejected him and hang up on him as I believed that it’s rude to call a person if she does not even want to be your friend. Eventually at night, I sent her a condolence message over facebook.
I did have several close female friends within my social circle, everytime I have an update on facebook regarding relationship problems. My female friends would like to comment. Kenny on the other hand would always like to post stuff related to Amanda (Example: hey! Bro u still got Amanda waiting for you man~), with his joking statement/comments made, my female friends did distance me over the past few months. Even during work, Kenny would sometime use my computer (logged into my account to send Amanda email) but she did not reply.
Almost every day, I would see Amanda at basement when I drive out for lunch, every time I caught her looking at my direction whenever she sees me. But whenever I looked back, she would just turn away. I conducted an experiment once, when I drove off, I turned my head and saw her looking in my direction again. I’m very sick of this eye-contact game.
To proof that I am not overly sensitive, I brought a friend out for lunch. Upon reaching the basement, she looked at me but I responded by turning away and walked in another directly. My friend, who was following closely behind, saw the whole incident. Inside my vehicle, my friend told me; “Bro! You know that Amanda? She looked at you but when u looked away, she looked down and walked off!” I’m kind of impressed that, even an outsider also can see a picture clearer than I do.
There were times when I entered through the front gate. It’s natural instinct that whenever the door opens, the person who’s sitting at the counter would look at who entered the room (Customer service counter). But I noticed that whenever I enter the front gate, she would just stare at her monitor. Initially I thought she was busy… but overtime, I notice that she was just staring at the screen and not typing anything every time I enter the room.
To be honest, I have not seriously talked to Amanda before. Previously it’s all about work related stuff. After that facebook incident, I did not talk to her from then on. I have always tried to keep a distance away from her thinking that she’s avoiding me. My friend seems to know something but he always refused to tell me anything. Till now, this problem still persists; my friend Kenny still disturbed me over her, while she’s still playing her game. Should I really talk to her or just sit by the fence and ignore her. Anyway, thank you for reading such a long story, I sincerely requested some feedback.

[KelvinHo]

I have to admit that.. I kinda liked Amanda, and did told my friend before about how I feel towards her…
But the way she treats me totally gave me a hint to move on..
But whenever I tried to move on, my friend would always approach me and tease me about Amanda.
Currently I sitting by the fence and totally clueless..
From what I know my friend always talked to Amanda and they are Kind of close friends.

[kai]

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[April Masini]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you. 😉

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