I know you’re disappointed, and I’m sorry. It’s tough to be a single parent dating — but what happened here is just part of the normal dating landscape. The reality is that you should use the first three months of dating to figure out if you want to continue dating someone because of what you’ve gotten to know about them (as well as yourself and the relationship). When you put pressure on yourself, him or the relationship to work — too soon — you wind up disappointed more easily than if you focus on simply getting to know him.
Since your two year old son got sick, this guy you’ve been dating for five weeks and who you see once a week, canceled a romantic overnight getaway so you could stay home with your son and take care of him — it sounds like he did the right thing. 😉 The problem is that you came off as a little needy when you told him that you wanted him to come to you and your sick son, after he cancelled the trip…. it’s probably a little soon in the relationship for him to have heard that. When he decided not to, you got hurt. Now, you’re wondering if he was just interested in sex because he cooled off. The reality is that you’re five weeks into getting to know someone and this incident was an opportunity to get to know yourself and him in a new situation.
My advice is to relax. Hang back. See if he asks you out again, and see if you still want to go. 🙂 Neither one of you did anything wrong — you were both just disappointed while getting to know one another in the early stages of the relationship. Life happens, as do disappointments. See if you can move forward with him, beyond this.
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