Dating/early relationship questions

[Sabresfan]

So this girl and I have been talking for about 4 months or so and were going out to this dance/party event on April 15. How many dates should we go on before I asked her to be my girlfriend? How should I ask her to be my girlfriend is there a cretin way to do it? I’m a 10th grade about 16 years old and this is my first real serious relationship even tho its not a relationship.

I was planning on takeing her to the mall or the movie before that dance on April 15. So that means that on April 15 that will be are 2nd date.

April 15th is my 16th birthday so I’m really excited to be there with her on my birthday.

Please help,
Thanks

[Evie]

Before you ask her to be your girlfriend, you should find out if she feels the same way about you. I don’t think there is an exact number of dates to go on before you ask. If you feel that she likes you too, the way you like her, then ask. Do it at a time when you feel comfortable and ready. Make sure that you’re ready for a relationship though as crossing the line between friendship and dating/relationship, the way I see it, it’s kinda dangerous going back and forth. You don’t want to lose a friend if it doesn’t work out. So it’s something serious to think about.

I don’t think there is a certain [b]way[/b] to ask a girl to be your girlfriend. Every guy has a different way of asking. Over a fancy dinner, or on a romantic date walking along the beach, there are many ways. For me, when my boyfriend first asked me to be his girlfriend, he asked me when we were talking on the phone. I was on vacation with my family out of town at the time so it was a long distance call. He wanted me to be his girlfriend and I guess he didn’t want to wait until I returned (thought I still don’t know if that was the reason to this day!), so he asked me over the phone. That made it one of the happiest days of my life among all the other happy days. I think that the best way to ask is what you feel is most comfortable when you’re with her.

Since your birthday is coming up, you could do it then, if you want to make it memorable for you. It depends on you. The best time is when you’re comfortable and ready. My b-day is the same month as you lol. 🙂

[Sabresfan]

Well I think she likes me a little but im not sure how much? Is there an easy way to tell how much or if a girl likes you? Another thing is that I got to always text her first when we dont talk like face to face. Once I text her its ok n’ all and she talks to me but she never texts first or starts the convo. When we talk Face to face/in person, she will talk first but, its something about texting that she wont start the convo. Is that a good thing or a bad thing?

[Sabresfan]

Another thing is when asking a girl to be your girlfriend, would it be better to say some good about her then say will you be my girlfriend? Or do they like something like tell them something good about them then say like will you go out with me?

[April Masini]

It sounds like you’re off to a good start, but don’t rush! [b]Evie[/b] had some good points. Especially when she suggested you figure out if the girl likes you. You’ll know because she’ll light up when she’s around you. She’ll want to be close to you. She’ll laugh at your jokes and smile at you a lot.

Enjoy your dates, and wait for about six good dates to go by before you ask her. The last thing you want to do is push her into something. Use the six dates to get to know her — and yourself with her — better. Give her compliments on the dates and see how she responds. See if she holds your hand back if you hold hers. Before you ask her, wait until she [i]really wants you [/i]to ask her — and then play a little hard to get! Women love it when a man isn’t too available.

As for her not texting you first, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you at all. She’s just waiting for you to take the lead, that’s all. 😉

I hope that helps! Let me know how it goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url]http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001113133958[/url].

[Anonymous]

Sorry to change the subject but I need help with something. So my brother give this guy my number because i told him he was hot. And the guy text me later that night but i didn’t check my phone until later the next day. I texted him back but since then i haven’t heard from him and he texted me first. Should i text him again or he’s not worth it???
-Thanks

[April Masini]

Please start a new post when you have a new question. That way if this original poster wants to come back with a follow up question, all his or her information is in one place and uncomplicated! 🙂

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